Un-happy hari raya

Dear Duhh.

No, this is not a post about how I feel sad being away so far from home, etc etc typical malay story..

this is by far the grandiest event ever happen in my so-called destabilize family. (at least thats what I stereotyping 'em)

I believe you have watch those story where the protagonist ran away with the bride despite their family unapproval, and how they end up suffering but do live happily ever after (if they live at all).

I usually watch such story with awe, and full-fledge will put on with the love epoch being shown...

..except now, at this particular time, I dont feel in awe with it anymore, when it slaps directly on my face..

This aidilfitri will not be a happy one for my family, since my beloved sister unexpectedly ran away from home last sunday - allegedly to follow her true love.

Except that I spit on those two too-merciful of words to justify her action.

I am gawkedly at surprise hearing this from my mom when I called her last night and knowing that they wont be spending the Raya at the village. And I thought "its another typical endless story where the wife and the husband demand to spend the eid in their hometown - except that my dad-side grandma had passed away last year". Earlier mom was pretty unsure whether to tell me the whole truth, until I insisted (I still couldnt grab the idea my parent have, of deciding not to tell me all the bad things happen at home - e.g. my grandma's death, uncle's death, etc etc..usually when I knew it, it already happened few months ago..for God sake!! I'm a medical student!! I faced death!! I witness a corpse without head..what more can scare me off???"

But this one really take the toll...

This is how the story unfold :

PART 1 : BACKGROUND

For a long time (though my sis only confess to me like 2 months ago), my sis is secretly having a relationship with a 30-years old guy from Trengganu. Being secretive as she is, and being who she is (i.e., no dating, no movies, no lunch together...only mere calls and sms) my parents can hardly discern the situation whether its serious or not.

Except I did sense something is wrong with her..Once a top student in her course, her grades suddenly falter and she unexpectedly extended her study. At first, my dad agrees, allowing her "cool-off" period which she demanded earlier.

Over the years, I guess this realtionship blossomed, eventhough with marks of fights (and alot of them according to my sis). I couldn comment much, since at first I thought my sis found her guy, as I saw those glaring on her eyes.

But these 2 months during summer holiday, I learnt a lot about this guy, and each lesson passed, my disliking towards him grew..

First, he is the most controlling-freak I ever seen. Blind-jealousy, since he consider every unanswered call to my sister, is equal my sister being with another guy. For God sake !! if you cant have the trust in this relationship, than what more can this thing be relied upon??
And he couldnt agree to the fact that my sis want to work after marriage. He want my sis to be a stay-at-home wife. Obviously no to my sis who had worked long enough pursuing his dream career.

He like to threaten my sis. And just for that fact, I know its not love that in the air. E.g. during their multiple break-up he'd consistently told my sis to "come back to him, else he knew what should he do"

One night, 3.am...when my sis was sleeping peacefully in her bedroom, and left her handphone downstairs, he called...like hundreds of times...failing his attempt, then he decided to call my mom (for God sake I dont know from where he got that no) and told my mom that he is a friend of my sis..and right at that very moment saw my sis making a foul play in Jalan Bukit Bintang...and my dad rushed to her bedroom but was surprised to see my sis still sleeping...This guy is damn stupid!!! that was the first time he ever had contact with my parents, and he introduce himself as a liar!!! and accused of my sis of doing such things!!! Grow up u stupid jerk!!! that what happen when u dont finish school and quit at form 3!!!

But, I couldnt put all the fault on this guy and my sis wholely. Since various events, my parents had shown a disliking towards this guy (with good reasons, I believe)..but mom and dad, you're talking to a girl in love...of course at this point, she couldnt accept the future my mom picture to her about what will happen if she ends up with him..She'd thought that my parent just want to separate them away...she is not being rational..because simply, love can really damage ur rationalism..

And thats where mom and dad made a mistake. For not talking in one-level with my sis. For not discussing things like adult.They themselves being a figure of authority when they simply told my sis to break-up with the guy. This and that, I believe my sis thought that my parents didnt even consider her happiness.

During those summer months when I returned home, my sis told me how the guy asked to marry her..My sis objects, saying she needs to finish her study first (since its an unwritten law in my family)..but being ignorant as he is, he planned various attempts to turn things around. His family didnt like my sis for postponding this marriage, and found another girl for this guy ..

This turn to be a hugeeee fight between my sis and him...AS u can see, my sis is the only victim here..the guys' family didnt like my sis....my parents didnt like that guy...and that guy, didnt really love my sis.....I really dont know what happen to my sis that she ended up in such a deep shit..

THE CRISIS : THE RUNAWAY

Sunday last week, uncalled for, this guy and her sister came to my house for "merisik". As u can be assure, while my parents dislike him, they still behave civilizedly , and denying the request by saying that my sis need to finish her study first. This guy was soo full of rage that he said "I'm ok if she doesnt want to marry, since I dont really want him either ..its just that she loves me too much and she is the one whon insist on that marriage"..and her sister added "yeah, and consider that our family doesnt really like her after all"...This guy is full of shit!!! U just came to a house, requesting from a father the permission for his daughter hand, and u made such an insult???? Whats wrong with this guy pls somebody tell me!!!

When the guy leave, my dad thought its all cool for now...but that night, at 4 a.m., the guy came and took my sis away..for good...my sis leave a letter ..(dramatic sungguh)...saying blablabla u-know-what..
When my mom wake up for sahur..I couldnt imagine how sad she was reading that letter.

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CHAPTER 2 : THE RESCUE

How do u find a little girl lost in a vast amount of uncivilized human???
Thank God for two factors:

1. The guy being stupid as he is, demand my sis to lodge a report in Damansara police for "parental abusing", and request that my dad being detained for investigations. I do not know what in the world made my sis agreeing to do that. Except that by some higher power, the policemen on duty at that time, was a family-friend. So,silently he alerted my dad, and they monitor the situation.

2. The guy's brother in-law, is an American. Listening to his in-laws, he sense something is wrong. He played a big role in rescuing my sis, since he also believe that this guy is plainly short-wired. So, he called my dad, and together, the plan a way to rescue my sis.

My dad called this guy then, saying that since he is so determined, lets meet up at the Pejabat Kadi and they can have a proper marriage. Gleefully, he brought my sis there. His brother in-law then brought him home for a proper-dress, to steal some time, while my parents in the meantime, evacuate my sis...

Now, thats what I call real drama!!!!

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CHAPTER 3 : THE AFTERMATH

My dad brought her to the police office to call off the report. Then they brought her to counselling, just to see that my sis insist on leaving my family. My parent was so sad, since my sis accused them of "parental kidnapping".Thank God, there exist no such law in malaysia, so the police cant detain my parent.

The police officer and counsellor sense something wrong, and insist that my dad brought my sis for a traditional treatment..since they said, my sis determination is out of context and illogical,and is a typical case of "Guna-Guna"....I couldnt believe such an ancient thing still exist nowadays.

Now my sis is being home-detained. They took-off the her handphone, and cut out the internet line (thats the reason why I couldn skype with my bro).A counsellor my dad was, he said he have a plan to revert back my sis, while at the same time, my mom is working with a traditional-practitioner and some Ustaz...they both agreed to the evidence of "extra-terrestial" presence being played here..I really couldnt grab this..but I am in no place to judge..

Mom said sis hasnt eaten for days, and now she is losing weight. But the last two day, since my youngest sister return home from her school, she managed to persuade my sis to eat.

My Bro endlessly request my dad to allow him to simply "lepuk" that guy on the street. But I personally dont think its a good idea. Now he refuse to go to work, and stand guard on the house, watching my sis closely..in fear that my sis would run away again, or worse, do something stupid..

SO, thats the real reason why this hari raya, there wont be roadtrip to village, no new clothing (my mom too scared to brought her to shop, in the event she ran away), and moreover, no open-house...SInce an open-house would invite a different pathway for my sis to leave home.

And there's the police too...the police is monitoring the neighbourhood, and once a while, a patrol car passed in front of our house...God, what really can happen nowadays...the extent things can go..is simply unlimited..

SO, here I am..startled to hear such horrible stories...and still guessing why mom and dad hadnt told me earlier..because they knew, (because I had done it before) I am the only one who can talk - level with my sis...we have this "bond"..maybe because we're only a year apart...and rather than siblings, we ended up like best friend....and I am sad seeing my friend turn this way.

I wish I could call that guy, and "Curse the day he was born"...
Once again, love fail in front of my eyes...and each day passings, my faith to love simply faltering ...

p/s: on a hip note, to entertain my sis while she is at home, my dad actually bought her a plasma TV and planning to install ASTRO (at last!!! hurrah!!!)....do u think if I fake my runaway, I would get a brand-new HTC crystal 3G with GPS ???

until then...happy hari raya to all...what little happines there is left

I'm sick of *** today

Dear Duhh.

am not feeling very well, but try very hard to rant here...just so not to let this space empty.

Tomorrow, junior will start their horrible dream here in the land of the ruthless. Am not looking forward to greet them properly, since figure out so many people are eager to do that. Me, the marvellous dreamer, will do an exact opposite. Will make sure they suffer during their first week here..

..or maybe will just dream from afar...hahaha

callmeintehmorning who?

Dear Duhh,

callmeintehmorning = freak vs morbid and dangerous?

I sound so mean.

gawkatme hate his home????

At least thats what I heard..

people herding there last evening eh ? how does it felt being scrumptuosly drowned within the adrenaline-rush soaring football madness??

we ought to watch new Prada-line-launching there..baru la fair kan????

Duhh. Whatever.

Dear Duhh,

closet.dreamer = geek vs splendid and marvelous?

gawkatme = meek vs horrid and frivolous!

I hate people who think they're too good to be true

Dear Duhh.

I couldnt imagine talking , let alone meeting with a person described on the title above.
Unfortunately, this last two days, I have met some of them.

Its hard to engulf the imagination of being too good, aint it???at least that is for me...
after all..."We're all made from soil"..

so i would like to use this space here to say to u bighead out there, nod down and look at earth from time to time...

after all..."We're all made from soil"..

Duhh the introduction

Dear Duhh,

It's gawkatme here. Grant me permission to rant and BS whatever I want on this blog.

closet.dreamer now open!!

dear "Duhh-with a double H"

this will be my first ranting here...and I dream to make this blog a pile of my worthless yet heartfelt ranting collection..so 10 years from now I can read back this blog and think "OMG, I was that person"..hahaha

in my other life - Im a geeky ...here, I am splendid and marvellous!! how I will do that?? u will have to wait and see...